It’s very easy to complain. You saw something that you didn’t like, you just start grumbling how it sucks. You felt some pain here or there, you just start mouthing off how it hurts. You dislike how certain things are done, you just start whining about how it is wrong.
No matter how much you wished for complaining to get you anywhere, it just doesn’t. You are just wasting saliva, energy, and time complaining about things that doesn’t fit your world view. Not only that, you irritate the people around you. The more you complain, the more you sound like a child. I know because I have to deal with it everyday.
I know everyone got their life and stuff to take care of. Circumstances are all different, so context is important here. I got friends who have to take care of their ailing parents by themselves with meagre salaries and have to work from before the sun rises to sun sets. But rarely do I see them complain as much as some who have almost everything they ever wanted in their life.
Now, that last sentence is also directed at me. I complain a lot too. I complain about work because of how monotonous it is yet I’m earning higher than what some of my friends are earning and have more free time. I complain about life because I don’t have all the shiny things when I actually have everything I ever needed. I complain about how the government is doing everything wrong when what they did ensure stability of the country.
My only excuse was that I grew up in an environment where everyone is complaining and whining about this or that. It’s either about money, health, how mistreated you are, etc. Now? I call bullshit on it.
You see, as I go further along with my life and learnt a few more things, it became clear to me that complaining is a sign of you failing. You are a loser and have lost perspective. You aren’t looking at things from a higher level and see how you can put in the work to change the circumstances. There is just no way you can win in life if you are complaining about everything because complaining also affects how your brain works. It rewires your brain for negativity.
So stop complaining. You need to start looking for solutions to the problem unless being mediocre or a loser is your life goal. I will respect your life choices.
This “stop complaining” message is also for me. I need to be more proactive in looking for solutions to problems in my life. I don’t want to be mediocre. I want to be better than who I was previously. Good news is that I have actually beginning to change myself for the better over the last few months. My journalings have helped me greatly.
For example, I know I don’t know how to do technical writing. Instead of complaining I don’t know how, I went for a two days course and paid from my own pockets to solve this problem.
I also hate my full time job because it’s monotonous and doesn’t give me much mobility. I prefer writing and the idea of working multiple part-time jobs. But it’s obvious that I need freedom fund to be able to do what I want without stress. So I focus on building up my freedom fund, step-by-step if necessary, so that I can quit my full time job.
And in life, certain things have a very simple solution. For example, you are sick, instead of complaining, why not see the doctor. If an old injury isn’t healing, why not see the doctor too? Complaining doesn’t heal you.
Then when you run low on money, one of the solutions is to audit the hell out of your life and cut the unnecessary. Start looking at ways how you can improve your inbound cash. Complaining doesn’t grow money or help you save. Take on additional jobs if you have to. Cut your expenses if you have to. Just don’t complain.
I have also heard people complaining about not having enough time to do the things they want. My answer to you is, why don’t you go audit what are you doing everyday that is superfluous and waste of time. If you are spending hours on Facebook or instagram, and then you are complaining about not having enough time, there is something seriously wrong with your priorities in life. I will just say you are full of shit.
For those who have to deal with complainers in their life, help them see the light if you love them. And if they still refuse to change despite your best effort, it’s time you drop them off somewhere, wave goodbye, and forget they have ever existed. Get the memory eraser from Men in Black if you have to.
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