A glimpse of what’s next in life

For most of us, we faced the question of what do we want to be at the age of around fifteen to sixteen. However, our teenage minds are still struggling with insane amount of pubertal hormones and making the right decisions. That means, it’s virtually impossible to know what one wants to do in the future. And in Singapore, we can delay that decision until we finished and passed the GCE ‘O’ levels examinations. Not that it’s a particularly long delay. Only then, we can choose to continue on with GCE ‘A’ level or go with tertiary education.

Students who decide to choose either the Institute of Technical Education or Polytechnics for their tertiary education face the dilemma of what to specialise in. And most of my friends that I know did not continue to develop a career based on their chosen course of study.

I was one of the few exceptions. I went with information technology, developed a whole set of skills related to software design and development. Then I continued on with a degree program in Computer Science. After graduating, I developed a career as a software engineer for the next five years. All in all, I have done ten years worth of software design and development.

During that period, I show a lot of enthusiasm for coding and software. I read up a lot, have my own pet projects, etc.

And as of late, I came to realise that software engineering is no longer what I want to do anymore. The sheer amount of changes in terms of programming languages, frameworks and development toolkits overwhelmed me so much that I gave up. There are also many other reasons that could have contributed to pushing me into this stage in life.

That feeling of being stuck at a crossroad was terrible. It caused me a great deal of angst, worry and confusion. My workload recently has also increased dramatically that I felt like I no longer have any control over my life anymore. Combine that with my decreasing interest in software development and a very demanding boss meant my workday is really miserable.

It went on for two months until something in me finally snapped. At least, I think that’s what it is. I slipped into severe depression, at least according to the doctor who saw me, and I know I’m not out of the woods yet. Still pending a consultation with a psychiatrist and counselling by a psychologist. On the surface I may look like I have it all under control. Deep down, the turmoil is real. Certain triggers can remind me of how trapped I am and caused my mood to swing dramatically. I found myself on the verge of tearing up and break down so many times. And at work, when the stress or amount of tasks get high enough, extreme anxiety sets in and I find myself feeling really scared. There were also countless suicidal thoughts that intrude when I’m by myself.

And the worse part now is that because of the US-China trade war caused by an unstable man-child sitting in the White House, the world’s economy slowed down dramatically and Singapore is particularly hard hit, causing the confidence of most businesses to dip dramatically. And I can see it affecting my ability to secure a new job or do a career change. I feel like it’s virtually impossible now and is worsening my depression.

In spite of all that, I caught a glimpse of what I could be doing next. Even though I’m reserved and quiet by nature, I found myself serving as the middle man, translating ideas and thoughts or simplifying questions presented by my colleague, who’s a highly technical person, into plain English that my boss could understand. I admit it caught me off guard initially but I knew how to seize subsequent opportunities to do the same thing again.

What’s more, during the times when I’m lucid and not so emotional, I spent the time to distill what kind of work am I really looking for. Took me a while to settle down on wanting to give digital design and marketing a try. On the surface, it looks like it’s a good direction for me and I think it’s a great starting point for me to develop a writing career…